Mindful Shopping: How to Save Time and Money While Clothes Shopping

As a new-er mom, I don’t have all day to spend shopping. Although sometimes I wish I did!

Shopping used to be one of my favorite past times. I loved spending the day with my girlfriends sipping on iced coffees, eating mall junk food and trying on all the clothes. Now that I have a family I don’t have as much free time. I have a baby to feed and a husband to clean after, and vice versa.

Here are my tips and tricks to help you shop mindfully to save you time and money, honey!

Girl loves our Target runs! Or is it the snack that has her so happy?!

The Down Low

  1. Know your body type! Knowing what styles are flattering for your shape will save you a ton of time in the dressing room. Once you know which cuts and styles don’t work for you, you don’t even have to bother trying them on. Not sure what your body type is? Don’t worry girl, I got you covered with my previous post on body types. Link here.
  2. Know your skin tone and undertones to determine which colors look best on you and which ones don’t. Find out which colors are most flattering for your skin tone here.
  3. I am jumping on the Marie Kondo band wagon! Only try on or choose pieces that spark joy and that you LOVE when you pick them up. I have wasted so much time trying on clothes that were cute but I didn’t love.
  4. If you don’t absolutely love a clothing item when you try it on, DON’T buy it! It doesn’t matter if its 50% off or you have a coupon. If it doesn’t spark joy put it back on the rack. That item is just going to sit in your closet and clutter it up.
  5. Have an idea what you are looking for before you step foot in a store. Google, use Pinterest or ideas from your favorite fashion bloggers to create a style board of exactly what you have in mind.
  6. Determine what stores and brands work best for you. Which brands fit you well, are in your price point and offer pieces that reflect your style?
  7. Be true to you. Its hard to not get sucked in to all the trends, whether they are flattering on you or not. Be very mindful of the items you are picking out. Are you choosing them because they are true to your personal style or are they trendy pieces that are in but you most likely will wear once or twice because its just not you?
  8. I have said it once and I will say it again and again. Dress how you want to be addressed. Are the pieces you are selecting pieces that you want to speak for you? Ensure the items are portraying the image you want to put out there.
  9. Always abide by the two rule. Make sure whatever you are purchasing goes well with two pieces of clothing you already own.
  10. If you are really strapped for time and have the budget, hire a style consultant. Style consultants are experts who will take in to account your body shape, skin tone, style and budget when picking out pieces for your wardrobe. Stylists will help you go through your current wardrobe, go over styles best for you and even offer personalized shopping sessions where they pick out pieces for you to try on and have them ready to go before you even get to the store.

I used to love to shop but now that I have my super cool one year old and my husband works shift work, I really value our family time. Heck yes, its nice to get some alone time/retail therapy! These tips will make your “you time” less stressful and more fun and productive.

How to Find the Most Flattering Jeans for Your Booty

Want some tips and tricks to help you find the best jeans to make your booty appear round, firm and lifted? Heck yes you do girl!

Whether you have a flat, long, saggy or triangle butt I have the low down on what to look for when jean shopping.

Like my last post on how to accent your waist we can’t all look like JLo or Kim K. And that is perfectly ok! Love your body, love the skin your in and take the time out every single day to find one thing you love about this glorious body you have been blessed with!

But these tips and tricks will help you define and accent those lovely lady lumps!

Types of Butts

Flat Butt- This one is pretty self explanatory, there just isn’t much back there. But the good news is there are a handful of tricks to add some fullness to your backside.

  • Avoid baggy or boyfriend style jeans.
  • Aim for more fitted styles.
  • Jeans with embellished pockets or flap pockets will add some volume to your derriere. Look for bling, buttons, embroidery or contrast stitching.
  • Higher rise jeans will cinch in your waist making your bum appear larger.

Saggy Butt-Your booty tends to droop, so you need a jean that will give a lifting effect.

  • Look for jeans that have pockets that are positioned higher. High pockets pull the eye up and gives you an instant butt lift!
  • Pockets that are long and end where your bum and thighs meet is a NO go for you ladies. This will only make your bottom appear saggier.
  • Jeans that have pockets that are tilted slightly outward creates the illusion of a more fit, lifted and plumper bottom.
  • You can definitely rock detailed pockets but its not a must for your booty type.

Wide Butt- Your bum tends to be the widest part of your body. This is typical for pear shapes.

  • Look for jeans that have pockets that are closer together. This draws the eye in and creates the illusion of a slimmer backside.
  • You want basic medium sized pockets that sit directly in the center of your cheeks.
  • Dark washes will also create a slimming effect.
  • Flares and bootcut jeans will help balance out your hips and butt.

Low Butt-Do not confuse a low butt for a saggy butt. Low butts are not saggy, they just sit lower and can still be firm.

  • Pockets that lift your bum are going to be your secret weapon.
  • Look for denim with less stretch. Jeans with too much stretch tend to get baggy, loose and don’t create that lifting effect your are going for.
  • Contoured waistbands and pockets are flattering for your shape.
  • Look for pockets with detailing at the top of the pocket as this draws the eye up and lifts the bum.

V Butt-V bottoms tend to be widest at the top and smallest at the bottom.

  • Look for pockets that are placed lower and are turned sightly inward create the appearance of a rounder butt.
  • Jeans with a light wash or what we call “sanding” at the bottom of your bum will also make your bum appear rounder and fuller.

Triangle Butt- This is the opposite of a V butt. Your booty tends to be widest at the bottom.

  • Jeans with pockets that are placed higher will draw the eye up.
  • Ensure your pockets are on the fullest part of your bottom.

Bubble or Bigger Butt- If you have a fuller derriere and want to downplay it, I got some tips for you!

  • Dark washes and looser styles like a boyfriend jeans will play down your booty.
  • Look for mid rise jeans with minimal details on the pockets.
  • Looser leg styles such as flares and boot cuts will take the focus off your bottom.
  • Less stretch in your denim will hold you in and give you a little lift.

6 Things To Look for When Jean Shopping

  1. Pockets- Pocket placement is key for all booty types, so always pay careful attention to where the pocket sits when trying them on. Pockets should NEVER (for any butt type) extend past where your bum meets your thighs.
  2. Fabric Content- Make sure to have a little stretch in your denim because jeans with zero stretch will literally flatten your booty. And they won’t be comfortable if you go a little cray at dinner.
  3. Wash/Color- Darker rinses will downplay and lighter will demand more attention. So whether you’re trying to attract or divert the eye, keep that in mind!
  4. Cut of Jeans- Bootcuts and flares will balance out curves while skinny or straight legged jeans will make your bottom look larger compared to your thighs.
  5. Details- Stitching or embellishments on pockets can add fullness and draw the eye to your booty. Make sure these details are appropriately placed on the pocket for your specific booty type.
  6. The Yoke- The yoke is the seam directly under the waistband and can either make or break the appearance of a nice booty.
  • The V Yoke is the most popular and most flattering.
  • The sweetheart or curved V yoke creates instant curves.
  • The inverted arc creates the illusion of a rounder and fuller bottom.
  • The straight yoke will make your hips appear wider. I would stay away from this style unless you are trying to create more curve in the hip area.
  • Avoid the super deep V yoke like the plague. With the yoke being longer it pushes the pockets down, which makes your booty look longer. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
Here are some American Eagle jeans with bigger pockets that are placed wider apart and a deeper yoke.
These are White House Black Market jeans with lower flap back pockets and a deep yoke.
These Old Navy jeans have a V yoke with higher placed pockets that are turned slightly outward.
These White House Black Market jeans have a V yoke and embellished pockets.
Here are a pair of White House Black Market jeans with a V yoke, mid placed pockets with contrast stitching at the top.
These Hollister jeans have a V yoke, contrast stitching on the pockets and sanding (lighter wash) on the center and bottom of booty.

Here are some Old Navy jeans with a deep yoke and wide placed pockets that are turned slightly outward.

You now have the tips and tricks to make jeans shopping a breeze and to find the perfect pair for your badonkadonk.

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How to Style a Denim Jacket

This post is all about one of my favorite accessories, a denim jacket!

A good denim jacket is a staple in any wardrobe and you can pretty much rock one with anything! There are so many ways to style a denim jacket and I am going to show you a few.

The perfect summer look! A striped flowy dress paired with sandals and a denim jacket.

Old Navy denim jacket, Walmart dress, Walmart sandals & Jessica Simpson clutch.

Complete your romper look with your good ol’ denim jacket.

Old Navy denim jacket, Target romper, Target belt, Jessica Simpson clutch & R2 sandals.

Astyn wanted to make an appearance. How darn cute is she?! Rock your denim jacket with your favorite t-shirt, tank or heck, get crazy and try a crop top and a maxi skirt.

Old Navy denim jacket, Smith’s crop top, R2 sandals & the maxi skirt was from a small boutique in NYC.

This is my go to Spring outfit right now! I’m living for this skirt and denim jacket combo.

Old Navy denim jacket, Target tank, Nordstrom Rack skirt, Payless block heels & Jessica Simpson clutch.

Pair your denim jacket with your favorite linen shorts.

Old Navy denim jacket, Target tank, Walmart shorts, Walmart sandals & clutch was from a FabFitFun box.

You cannot go wrong with this white skinny jeans, cute blouse and denim jacket look!

Old Navy denim jacket, Walmart top, Old Navy jeans, Walmart sandals & clutch from FabFitFun.

This look is giving me all the laid back vibes. Get this look by combining black skinny jeans with your favorite t-shirt and that essential denim jacket!

Old Navy denim jacket, Walmart top, Old Navy jeans, Walmart sandals & FabFitFun clutch.

I love me some leggings. Pair your leggings with a tunic (or an oversized maternity top haha), some slip on shoes and a denim jacket.

Old Navy denim jacket, Target maternity top, White House Black Market leggings, Steve Madden slip ons & FabFitFun clutch.

This is my traveling look. I need to be comfy while traveling and what is more comfortable than joggers, a graphic tee, sneakers and a denim jacket?!

Old Navy denim jacket, Old Navy t-shirt, Target joggers & Adidas sneakers.

This look makes me want to go apple picking, brewery touring and all the other Fall things. Rock your white pants with a flannel, booties and that denim jacket.

Old Navy denim jacket, flannel, jeans & Dr. Scholls boots.

Yes, you can wear a denim jacket in the Winter! Pair it with a turtleneck, ankle boots and a denim jacket.

Old Navy denim jacket, Target turtleneck, Old Navy jeans, belt from Amazon & Dr. Scholls boots.

Now go rock your denim jacket in style girl!

How to Style White Jeans

This Style Tip Saturday is all about stylin’ those white jeans girl!

I love a good pair of white skinny jeans. There are so many ways to wear them. And the good news is you only really need one pair of white jeans to get you by!

Before I get into the good stuff, I’m going to go over the age old rule of “no white after Labor Day”. This unspoken rule has scared the white pants off of us ladies (literally, right?) for far too long.

Labor Day became a federal holiday in 1894. Labor Day marked the end of summer and it was back to the grind for most. And what do we tend to wear in business settings? Dark clothing. In the late 19th century, white clothing was considered vacation or leisure attire. So naturally, once summer was over everyone would pack away their light weight, breezy and white clothing items.

My, oh my have times have changed since 1894! So do we still have to follow that “no white after Labor Day” rule? The answer is HECK NO! Girl, rock those hot mama white jeans all year round. And I’m going to show you how! 😉

Pair your white jeans with a plain t-shirt, cardigan and ankle boots.

Create the perfect fall look with a sweater, white skinny jeans and a cute pair of sneakers.

For all things fall rock your flannel, vest and white jeans with some ankle boots.

I love classic looks. Create this look by pairing your white skinnies with a button up and flats.

You can never go wrong with a striped t-shirt, white jeans and slip on shoes!

Dress up your white skinny jeans with a blazer and flats or heels.

This is my current favorite outfit. Comfy camo t-shirt, white skinny jeans and slip ons.

Don’t be afraid to go white on white! Combine your favorite white blouse with those white skinny jeans.

For the ultimate beachy vibes, rock a flowy top with wedges and those white skinny jeans.

Fashion is supposed to be fun and a form of self expression. So throw all those fashion “rules” out the door and wear whatever you want!
Heck yes we can wear those white jeans all year round! And now you know just how to rock ’em!

What Colors Are Most Flattering For Your Skin Tone?

I love this dress but it washes me out and doesn’t compliment my skin tone!

Ever love a top or dress but something just didn’t look right when you put it on? It fit well in all the right places but something was off? Color matters! And this is only a guideline. If there is a color you love but it doesn’t flatter your skin tone, rock it with your accessories!

How To Determine Your Skin Undertone:

There are multiple ways to figure out your skin tone. I will go over each method below.

The Vein Method

Check the veins on your inner forearm to determine your skin tone.

  • If your veins are blue or purple you have a cool undertone.
  • If they are green you have a warm undertone.
  • If it is hard to determine, you most likely have a neutral undertone.

The Jewelry Test

Use gold and silver necklaces and/or bracelets in natural lighting to figure out which color makes your skin look brighter and healthier.

  • If gold jewelry is most flattering on you, you have a warm undertone.
  • Your undertone is cool if silver jewelry suits you best.
  • If you are lucky enough to look great in both, you have a neutral undertone.

The Paper Test

Hold a sheet of white printer paper up to clean, make up free skin in natural lighting.

  • If your skin looks yellow, green or brown you have a warm undertone.
  • If your skin looks pink, rosy or blue you have a cool undertone.
  • You have a neutral undertone if your skin has a grey or ashen appearance.

The Nail Bed Method

Its as simple as it sounds! Check your nail beds to determine your undertone.

  • You have a cool tone if your nail beds are reddish-orange, reddish-blue or pinkish-blue.
  • If your nail beds are peachy or yellow, you have a warm undertone.

Colors for Warm Skin Tones

Your go to colors: Red, scarlet, cranberry, peach, coral, orange, amber, honey, gold, yellow, orchid, olive green and moss green.

Your neutrals: Taupe, cappuccino, brown, cream and mushroom gray.

Colors to avoid: Jewel tones such as; icy blues, sapphire and amethyst.

Colors for Cool Skin Tones

Your go to colors: Bright blues, deep purples, ruby red, emerald green, mint green, lavender, fuchsia, baby pink and rosy red.

Your neutrals: Cool gray, navy and bright white.

Colors to avoid: Oranges, yellows and tomato red.

Colors for Neutral Skin Tones

Your go to colors: Blush, dusty pink, light peach, cornsilk yellow, medium blue and jade green.

Your neutrals: Mid-range grays, off white, coffee brown and black.

Colors to avoid: Electric blue and magenta.

Colors for Everyone

Light blush, teal and eggplant purple are colors that people of all undertones can rock with confidence!

True story. And I just love Steve Harvey, TBH.

As always, these are just suggestions. Fashion and personal style is all about self expression. If you love it, than wear it! Who cares about all the “what not to wear rules”! You already know what I am going to say; You do you boo boo ❤️